On Waiting & Not Having It Suck
A poignant movie quote: “I hate waiting.”
Indeed. Don’t we all.
Waiting to open presents on Christmas morning, even though they all lay there gleaming and sparkling but we have to read twenty-odd pages of old Russian orthodox reflections first.
Waiting to eat dinner after a long day and not being able to hold out, reaching for some convenient snack.
Waiting for the clock at work to finally be in our favor, pacing, painstakingly, throughout those dragging afternoon minutes that feel like hours.
Waiting for a baby to come out.
Waiting to be reunited with loved ones that were gone much too soon and we have to try to forget about sometimes so that we can cope with our miserable state of being so very far away from them.
Waiting for kids to be out of diapers, out of elementary school, out of the house.
Waiting for the traffic light, the line, the gas tank to fill up.
God, we have so much waiting to do in this life. Sometimes it’s frenzied waiting, sometimes it’s molasses-like waiting, and sometimes it’s just plain old waiting.
Whatever your wait, it’s best to accept all of it with solemn grace and a sense of gusto. If we’re waiting, we might as well make the most of it..
So, carve out spaces in your life for the things that bring you intrinsic joy. For me, that was a succulent from Trader Joe’s, snap peas from Costco, painting two big canvases dancing with my toddler to Petey Pablo in our pajamas, forgetting about the fact that I’m dilated to 3cm and waiting for this rascal of a baby to pop out.
Decide to be present to the ones you serve and the people you love, no matter how annoying the waiting is and how bored and tired you may be.
Make a choice to be present to yourself, to be kind to yourself when you need to and to push yourself when you need to rise above the fallen state of our nature and bust out some supernatural stamina to get whatever it is you’re getting done finished to the absolute best of your capacity.
Don’t forget to make time for your friends, to hibernate and recharge by yourself, to take good care of the responsibilities entrusted to you.
Chose to spend your waiting in contentment that acknowledges the sometimes crappy reality of human wistfulness for something greater and beyond, but that also allows you to blossom, rightfully, in the midst of all the uncertainty and the patience that seems to stretch out like butter over too much bread.
So! Make the most of your waiting. Wait better and wait happier today.