The Most Important Gift
Life is a chaotic, stressful, and sometimes downright unpleasant business.
If you're an adult, you might have experienced this. Whether it's an unexpected problem with your car that you were in denial about, or an aggravating avalanche of stress at work, or a nasty disagreement with your spouse, or a bad break up, or a particularly dry season in the midst of usual vitality, life always seems to hand us twelve fires as soon as we've extinguished the five that were in our view.
If you're human, you know that suffering and the uncomfortableness of the unexpected are never strangers to us, no matter what walk of life you walk. They always find us, they always challenge us, even with the beautiful moments mixed in between.
But, in the midst of all the blahness of it all, I've been pondering how the magnitude of our misery pales in comparison to the glory of our friendships, and the joy that comes with having truly amazing persons to share our life with.
The loss of someone we love tends to bring this realization out of us, but so does a glass of wine one someone's couch when we can just spill out all of our frustrations and be exactly understood. This realization comes when students share the profound musings of their hearts with us in a funny note or an adorable comment. It comes when our children take their first steps or look up at our faces with the utmost sincerity. It comes when we laugh so hard that we feel physical pain in our bellies. It comes when we give into moments of spontaneity with chips and Starbucks mobile orders and random phone calls.
These realizations of blessings come whenever we pause the cyclic nature of our everyday hardship to recognize: damn, if I have nothing else, I have the solidarity of sweet friendship.
Maybe you're the type of person that has two good friends. Maybe you have thirty-two. Maybe you have a dear sibling, an understanding parent, supportive coworkers, a long distance someone that makes your day better through the glow of your phone's messages.
Whatever the gift of friendship looks like it in your life, remember that this abundant, inexhaustible ocean of human love is what makes your life worth living.
We are meant for relationships, we are meant to be noticed, and we are meant to be stretched in how we love the irreplaceable friends who have chosen to walk this journey of life by our sides.
So today, remember to tell your friends that you love them, and your life is richer with them in it.
For, as Helen Keller wrote: